With the end of my exams, I waved goodbye to my 3rd year in NUS (I hope). The last finals was crap but yeah, keeping fingers cross that it will all go smoothly. 2 weeks to the result release. haha... nevermind. such mind boggling stuff are NOT important.
As with year 2 when I was involved in organizing FLV, BioBiz and did an internship at IS, year 3 had been a... fun-filled, relaxed and totally enjoyable year. haha.. First up! EXCHANGE programme. I seriously think that it must have been the BEST time in my ENTIRE LIFE. A DJ on 98.7 said that we should never talk about good food, good movies or dreams over a dinner party. Because these are the little things that ONLY YOU had the first person's perspective and your friends will be painfully waiting for you to finish reinacting the scene. And since, the exchange was mine, maybe I should just keep mum- which is such a shame. As I type this, I can just about FEEL my heart FLYING back to America. haha.. then of course, there was BioBiz, where I did get to learn so much this year, much unlike last year. This year had been extremely fun with all the funny beings on the team. Abit of a regret not being able to know more of you better. Year 3 is ending with this Internship that Im doing now at MSD. First week was just over and I'm still not too sure how I'll eventually fit in. But lets see. I think I'll do just fine=)
In any case, 98.7 was just broadcasting about why daddys love to give their daughter's boyfriend a bad/hostile time when they are visiting for the first time. Points noted:
1) disparity in level of commitment expected and given to the relationship
2) differing regard to the formality of the parent-meeting session
3) always sound interested and engaged in conversation. ask questions.
4) touchy couples are a no no. it was said that daddy will draw the guns if the boyfriend attempt more than the hands
Concluding: daughters remain LITTLE PRINCESSES of the daddy not in the literal sense.
In my 'not-that-humble' opinion, this is what we know as possessiveness. haha... this weird mentality and segregation of things into 'mine' and 'not mine'. So, what is mine is mine to keep and do kindly ask for permission if you do require me to share or loan. I can consider.
Meaning, in simple terms: We often hear of 恋弟情节， 恋母情结 and all the other weird emotions that people can have with regards to other members of the family. This is NOT a promotion for 乱伦in all sense because I think that that is just disgusting. But when you grew up thinking that this person had been attached to your name, shared by the other family members and no one else, context changes.
If this NOBODY comes along and say: hey, your daughter is MY girlfriend. The first thing that pops up will be 'like NO?! She is my daughter!'
So the most important thing is actually to show that you are NOT taking her AWAY, but rather, displaying a commitment that you will be a good match for her and to 'share' or 'license' or 'franchise' this entity known as a daughter.
As a kid, you realise that you are more willing to share but less willing to give. Most importantly, you do not snatch or act like a pirate. Otherwise, be prepared for a pull-hair-fight.
So, daughter-in-laws and sons-in-laws, do demonstrate some form of sensitivity. As with the billions/trillions of married couples out there, I believe that dealing with the in-laws is not that much of an impossibility.
